Because He Loves Me: Discussion #3
Before you read the chapter…
- Someone you don’t know, standing in a waiting line somewhere, suddenly speaks up and asks, “So, who are you?” What would you reply? (Probably you’d give your name.) And if they persevered and said, “No, I didn’t want your name. I wanted to know who you are!” What would you say next?
- How different was your answer from one that the next person in line might give? Why?
While (or after) you read chapter 3: The Identity Gift
- On page 53, Elyse helpfully gives examples of how a Christian who forgets her new identity is likely to respond to life’s little trials, and then gives examples of how remembering our identity in Christ can change how we react to the self-same trials. I believe you’ll get more out of what you’ve read if you try these written exercises:
- Think about your “life in the trenches.” Choose a commonly experienced test from your own life, and write a description of it.
- Now, write out your typical “before” response, and then a gospel-saturated “after” response.
- Now, think and journal an answer to this question: “How would remembering that Christ is your life while in the middle of this kind of situation give you new power to respond in a God-glorifying way?”
- Now, this one: “How would such a response amaze and delight your husband and kids, and thus further glorify God?”
- Finally, go to the Scriptures and see if you can find some that help to cement ties between the life of Christ and your particular struggle. For example, if you are prone to anxiety when your children don’t do well on tests, find verses that connect Christ’s victory with fear, such as 1 John 4:18 or Romans 8:15. Write at least one of these down and try to meditate on it throughout today!
- Elyse writes, “Our problem is that if we don’t continually remind ourselves of how he has chosen, renamed, and remade us, the struggle to grow in Christian character will become nothing more than another attempt at self-improvement, and self-improvement always ends in self-loathing or pride” (55).
- Take some time to write out in your own words how God has chosen, renamed, and remade you.
- Now, find Scriptures that speak to you about these truths! (Elyse has given some pointers on pages 56 and 57 and 62-64, but personalize this as much as you can!) Take the time, if you can, to copy these verses out by hand.
- Would you like to share anything that God revealed to you in this exercise? That’s what the “comment” button is for up above (hint!).
- Elyse ends this chapter by reminding us that, while the gospel and our new identity in Christ are precious gifts, we want to be sure to thank (and focus on) the Giver. Take some time to do that now, using the verses that you’ve written out to do it as thoroughly and specifically as possible.
As always, we’d be encouraged to hear about how the Lord has met you during your interaction with this chapter of the book! Use the “comment” link above to share if you feel so led!
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Discussion #2 for this book.
Discussion #4 for this book.